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When I dance...

When I dance in mirror room, I used to watch myself, looking my own body gesture.
When I dance in party, I used to keep an eye on the environment, avoiding collisions.

I found myself seldom look at my partner. Did I make you think I don't care about you? Or even worse, that make you think I was belittling / demeaning you. If so, I hope you take my apology.

I have learnt social dance since 1999 (or 2000). The main aim was for fun, not for competition nor performance. That's why I hate to practice intensively for them. When I am interested in the kind of dance, I will take it seriously.

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SiuChark said…
Sometimes it's true...

Not talking about body gesture or physical connection with your partner,

the non-physical connection or the chemistry with your partner is nearly zero that i sometimes feel you're like dancing alone rather than dancing with your partner

No offense, but this is how i felt... ><

But i still feel great dancing with you, when sometimes you feel great that some routines we danced together went smoothly...

畀多啲交流啦~
Unknown said…
it takes both skillful techniques & strong emotional expressions to be a great couple dancing on the floor. i guess all dancers would have no doubts to agree on that. so, to me, it's all about WILL&CAN.

not talking about those who are gonna take part in competitions/performances, but about those in casual tryouts. when either side of the couple is not demonstrating enough eye contacts, the very basic & essential way of emotional expression bewteen dancing partners, it might be that

(a) he/she is struggling with the techniques & wanna focus on it first, but WILL be willing to express more later when he/she's satified with his/her own steps, and wanna get the connection to the next level;

(b) he/she is still a beginner OR experiences make him/her simply CAN'T easily get used to having close eye contacts with strangers (if you are..)

In both cases, no one should be blamed nor feeling being insulted as it's always the patience and kindness that keeps a good partnership.

as far as i know that girls're very sensitive creatures, which means they usually pay more attention to the emotional part, and deal it with special care. so if you are a boy, and your partner (I suppose that's a SHE, hahh) is not showing the "non-physical connection", pls. try to understand her and let her take her time.
Kenny Yan said…
>SiuChark
Thx for ur feedback ~
Frank feedback is invaluable!!!
I will try to give more next time ~

>Ho's
So true !!!
I think I am in (a)...but it seems I never satisfy with my gesture and think I should make my body movement better...and then I never express my emotion ~
During the lesson(usually in mirror room), I am so into the technique part and ignore the eye contact. I found myself usually looking THRU my partner but towards the mirror and see whether our steps are in sync, whether our steps are correct, etc.
I have no intention to make my partner(s) feel bad but...I somehow made it happen...OTL

In my next lesson, I will try to give more eye contact to partner(s)~
CarenHE said…
Because I am a girl, so I totally understand what Chark has said.

Sometimes, emotional communication including eye contact can inspire the enthusiasm between you and your partner that not only can make you two dance smoothly like a unity, but also can give the audience a different feeling.
Anonymous said…
hello,
偶然路過此處, 看了些對跳舞的感想, 知道你係一個熱愛跳舞的人.最近我有意思去組一個小組齊齊找老師學跳jazz, 可惜我認識的朋友中都沒有人有興趣, 於是只好在網上搵朋友一起學.但又對各studio界的情況亦不熟悉, 老師及場地對預算毫無頭緒. 你可以給我一點點意見嗎?

Kenny Yan said…
>Caren
Thx for ur information!
Let's see if I can inspire u next time ~

>樟
在下跳開的都是社交舞 (partner dance), 對 Jazz 的認知不多。
不過我可以幫你問一問朋友 ~

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