When I dance in mirror room, I used to watch myself, looking my own body gesture. When I dance in party, I used to keep an eye on the environment, avoiding collisions. I found myself seldom look at my partner. Did I make you think I don't care about you? Or even worse, that make you think I was belittling / demeaning you. If so, I hope you take my apology. I have learnt social dance since 1999 (or 2000). The main aim was for fun, not for competition nor performance. That's why I hate to practice intensively for them. When I am interested in the kind of dance, I will take it seriously.